Category: For My Kids

8 Rules for a Healthy, Happy & Long Life

These 8 rules have been observed and created over a period of years (maybe a decade or so). I expect the list to grow, as I learn more, and grow myself. For now, there are eight rules for a healthy, happy and long life.

They are:

  1. Eat with someone else whenever possible, as opposed to eating alone.
  2. Plate should have – 50-60% vegetables, 30-40% proteins and rest whatever.
  3. Hydrate Well – 8 to 10 8-oz glasses of water.
  4. Exercise moderately for 30-45 minutes 5 times a week.
  5. Spend time in nature, out in the open.
  6. Have positive interactions with friends and family on a regular basis.
  7. Make a lot of money so you don’t have to worry about it.
  8. Spend time on your passions.

Eat with someone else whenever possible, as opposed to eating alone.

We are social animals. We need interaction with others. It’s a core human need. Complete isolation is what they do in prison when they really want to punish you.

Therefore, I suggest you eat all your meals with someone else. If you’re at home, find your spouse, partner or child to eat with. When you’re out, invite friends. When you’re at the food court at the mall, walk up to some stranger who is eating alone and ask if you can share the table with them.

Why eat with someone else? Well, isn’t breaking bread together one of the best ways to connect with someone?

Plate should have – 50-60% vegetables, 30-40% proteins and rest whatever.

When you fill your plate with vegetables and protein (preferably plant-based), your body will thank you.

I’d recommend you read two books The China Study, and Younger Next Year. Both of these should be available for rent at your local library.

Hydrate Well – 8 to 10 8-oz glasses of water.

Hydration is a cure to many ailments. Drink plenty of water everyday and watch your body, mind and spirit transform in amazing ways (especially if continued for extended period of time).

I highly recommend you make this a life-long habit. Matter of fact, all of the eight rules suggested here should be life-long habits.

Exercise moderately for 30-45 minutes 5 times a week.

Exercising keeps your mind sharp, and your body strong, balanced and agile. Experiment with different forms of exercises. Build your own exercise program.

I train hard 3-4 days a week, and I train easy for another 2-3 days a week. Important thing about exercising is consistency. Show up everyday. Workout everyday.

Spend time in nature, out in the open.

Spending time outside of the house, out in the open is an amazing way to spend you free time. Spend it with a friend, spouse, partner or child if possible.

Doesn’t matter how you do it, as long as you do it. If you can’t get out for long walks every day, spend little time outside. But, get out of your house.

Have positive interactions with friends and family on a regular basis.

Memories are what live on long after we’re gone. The rest is immaterial. Spend time with people you love, and those who love you.

Life is nothing but a collection of moments. And when you spend those moments with people you love, you turn them into memories. Those memories eventually become stories that continue living longer after we stop living.

Make a lot of money early on in life, so you don’t have to worry about it.

Most people spend their entire life trying to make money. Don’t do this. Figure out how to make a lot of money early on, so you can spend the rest of your life on your passions, having happy interactions with others, and change the world.

Spend time on your passions.

Our passions make us happy. More time we spend pursuing them, happier we become.

Size of your happiness is equal to the size of the problem that frustrates you

You order a coffee. While handing you the coffee, the barista accidentally drops the cup. Coffee spills.

What do you do?

You order food at a restaurant. It tastes horrible.

What do you do?

You’re running late to an important meeting on the 5th floor. The elevator is full, and you’re not in it.

What do you do?

In each of these situations, you have a choice. Frustration or calm.

Each of these are a whirlpool. If you choose to get frustrated, you’ll get sucked into the frustration whirlpool and you’ll continue encountering things that will frustrate you further.

Should you choose calm, frustrating things will stop happening to you. Because calm is also a whirlpool.

You cannot control the situation. You only control your response to the situation. Frustration comes when we react to a situation. Respond. Don’t react. That response determines the level of your happiness.

When small things frustrate you, you are frustrated often. As a result, the size of your happiness is small.

When you stop getting frustrated by small things, your happiness automatically increases.

Reaction is automatic. It’s also unhealthy. Learning to respond is a way of life. It comes with practice. Deliberate practice at the beginning. Eventually, it becomes an unconscious habit.

When my children get angry or frustrated with something, I remind them to ask two questions:

  • Is this problem small or big?
  • Is this problem temporary or permanent?

Mind you, it doesn’t always work because they’re kids. But when it does, the situation is resolved within seconds. Ideas is to get them to think for a second so they can respond instead of react.

If the problem is temporary (regardless of the size of it), ignore it, or quickly solve it. The barista can always make new coffee. Chef can always cook new food, and empty elevator is just a minute away.

Point is … Unless the problem is big and permanent, there is no need to worry or get frustrated about. Even then most likely, there is a way for you to handle it.

The size of your happiness depends on you. No one else. Are you going to respond or react? Are you going to choose calm or frustration?

Six Asset Classes to Cultivate for Success

Money is what usually comes to mind when we think of assets. It’s not the only asset class though.

I believe there are six asset classes. They are:

  • Knowledge
  • Experience
  • Time
  • Health
  • Money
  • Relationships

These are not listed in any order of importance or priority. If I had to choose the most important of these assets, I’d go with Health. Time would be next.

Better health and longer time horizon can give me a much better chance of acquiring the other four assets.

Money is usually a by-product of the other assets, especially knowledge, experience and relationships. But, you can also use money to develop your other assets.

Knowledge is available widely these days, usually for free as long as you have the time and desire to pursue it.

Experience can be easily gained too. All you have to do is offer to do “it” for free, or for a testimonial. That reminds me. Anytime you get a testimonial for your work, ask for these five bullet points.

  • What work did I do for you?
  • How did you find me?
  • Why did you choose me to do the work over other people / candidates?
  • As a result of my work, what changed in your life / business?
  • How likely are you to work with me again, and who would you refer me to?

Time is the only limited asset we have. And, it decreases as we get older. It is also the most unpredictable asset. I’ve had people in my family die in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s. And, there are also people in my family who are 90+.

It is important that we use the time we have today, wisely. It is important that we focus on activities that make a lasting difference, bring us long term happiness. It is important that we don’t squander time with meaningless activities or things that won’t matter soon after we do them.

Health is by far the most important asset in my opinion. It takes a time, discipline and knowledge to build a body with sound health. By the way, you body can communicate with you and tell you what it requires. Listen to it closely. Experiment when possible, and strengthen it.

When it comes to health, I have my own SEEDS Wellness formula. It’s a simple formula that works extremely well for me.

  • Sleep well
  • Eat well
  • Exercise well
  • Drink well
  • Socialize well

When you focus on doing these five things well, you will automatically develop a healthy body, mind and soul.

Relationships is by far the toughest asset for me to cultivate. I unfortunately can’t give you much in terms of advice here. But, I do know they are very important in building a fulfilling life.

So … what are your thoughts on assets? Can you think of other assets one can cultivate? Or, are most other assets simply a subset of the ones listed above?

Also … got any advice on relationships?

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